Plenty of people visit our office fully committed to filing for divorce. They are often hurt, bitter, sad, and feeling justified that this is the next logical step, and helping them navigate everything that comes next from a legal standpoint is what we are here to do.
That said, we cannot stress enough the importance of asking yourself, “Is filing for divorce really the answer?”
We are here to help families through their darkest days and most complex decisions. But that does not mean we are pushing for divorce as the answer in every case. Simply put: It is not the right decision in every situation. Furthermore, divorce should never be a decision made lightly, quickly, or without exhausting all avenues to potentially save your marriage.
If there is a sliver of hope that your marriage can be saved, or if you think you might have regrets a few weeks, months, or years later, it is absolutely worth seeing what alternatives exist to make amends with your spouse and/or your relationship.
This could include any of the following:
- Marriage counseling
- Finding ways to communicate better
- Learning to forgive under the harshest circumstances
- Showing a heart change
- Reflecting on your role in where things went wrong
A Unique and Refreshing Approach to Filing for Divorce Conversations
Maybe we are unique in our approach, but an important piece to our initial conversations with clients is to question what is happening and what led them to come in. We even ask, “Is the marriage really over?” By digging deeper and learning more about our clients, their family, and their mindset, we often recognize a flicker of hope in the relationship. Is every relationship worth saving? No. But rather than leap straight to how the divorce process works, we get our clients talking and thinking about their next moves very carefully. That said, it is important to ask yourself:
“Where did our marriage go wrong, and can it be fixed?”
“What did I do to contribute to this situation?”
“Deep down, do I still want this marriage to work?”
“Is divorce the best decision for our children?”
“Have I done absolutely everything to make this work?”
“Does my spouse know what I expect and/or why I am unhappy with the relationship?”
A Marriage Is Worth Fighting For!
If filing for divorce is the right choice, and the marriage truly is “over,” you will have concrete answers to the questions above. You will feel a burden lifted off your shoulders, and it will be immediate and lasting.
If your decision to file ends up being incorrect, and you did not take all the necessary steps to see if the marriage could be saved, you risk incredible guilt and remorse. We believe that, in most instances, people tend to be willing to quit quickly. Rather than approaching the situation from all angles, they make decisions based on bad information or emotions. They believe divorce is the answer to all their problems. What they do not realize is that marriage is supposed to be hard and, if you have children with your spouse, the marriage may end but the relationship does not.
It can be frustrating, tiring, and burdensome at times. But the benefits should outweigh those negative thoughts or seasons.
In fact, the hardships, heartache, and stress you and your spouse experience ultimately build the relationship’s character and give it substance. Those struggles give couples a sense of pride in what they have overcome and continue to accomplish in their relationship. Furthermore, the individual and personal benefit and growth you go through while being married is essential to your development as a human being and as an influencer on your children, spouse, and those around you.
Call Nelson Law Group Today!!
We truly believe marriage is worth fighting for. But if filing for divorce is the answer for you, you need a trusted advisor to guide you through each stage of your divorce and help you deal with the stress that naturally comes with that. We work diligently to achieve a result that ensures you receive what you are entitled to as you move forward onto the next stage of your life. The Nelson Law Group brings nearly two decades of experience in family law to every case.
Give our knowledgeable staff here at Nelson Law Group, PC, a call if you have any further questions regarding this or any other issue. Our staff is always available. Give us a call today! For more information about Brett A Nelson, click here.