Thinking of Reconciling your marriage? Here are 6 helpful tips to get you there together. When your relationship is on the rocks, or worse, has already ended in divorce, it can seem unfathomable to you or your former spouse that you can one day reconcile. Maybe your husband had an affair, or your poor decisions with the household finances led to irreparable trust issues. Whatever the reasons, getting back together isn’t in the cards.
Or is it? For many people, reconciling your marriage can be a reality – regardless of the circumstances. How that happens is entirely up to both parties and will take a lot of hard work and patience.
Are you thinking of reconciling your marriage? Here are 6 helpful tips to get you there together:
Ask yourself if forgiveness is possible
Forgiveness and reconciliation are two completely different things, but you can’t have one without the other. Think about it: you and your former spouse may be on the same page in terms of reconciling your marriage, but if you can’t bring yourself to forgive that person for their transgressions, or forgive yourself, then reconciliation is likely, not possible. On the other hand, if forgiveness is possible, then the proverbial door is wide open for salvaging your relationship.
Allow your spouse to express any anger or resentment
If you were the one in the relationship who wronged the other, now is the time not only to allow that person to express any anger or resentment, but it’s also time for you to be quiet and listen. Hear their perspective on the situation, let them know they have every right to feel the way they do and apologize for your actions.
While possible, it’s not realistic to think that you can simply pick up where you left off in your relationship. Instead, follow the old adage that slow and steady wins the race. Get to know each other again; focus on having deeper conversations and taking steps to improve your communication. Once you get a little momentum going, you should still maintain the idea of taking things one day at a time.
Keep your reconciliation quiet at first
It’s likely that when your relationship ended the first time, everyone around you – friends, family, co-workers, neighbors, etc. – formed all sorts of opinions and handed out plenty of free advice. Many of them may have even taken sides. With your relationship finally on the mend, now is not the time to get caught up in what other people think or feel. Keep things quiet until you are absolutely sure your reconciliation will happen.
Talk to your pastor
Marriage is a covenant relationship between two people and God. There’s no better person to help you understand how to reconcile a marriage than your pastor. Your pastor will speak to you and your spouse without judgment or prejudice and help you work through your issues. They will help you see if God can help you find a way to save your marriage.
Focus on the here and now
If you are thinking about reconciling your marriage, then you will not live in the past when it comes to your relationship. You should look at this opportunity to reconcile as a brand-new relationship where you can look forward rather than in the rearview mirror.
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