Divorce is common, but not during the holidays
It has been widely stated for years that almost 50% of all marriages in the United States end in divorce. But while a divorce is common, couples whose relationships are on the rocks typically don’t end them during the holidays.
Believe it or not, January has long been dubbed Divorce Month. And if couples aren’t reaching out to a lawyer right after the first of the year, at least one study from the University of Washington in 2017 found that divorces also consistently peak in March and August. This is likely because the last thing anyone wants to do is upset the apple cart during November and December. The holidays are for families coming together and kids being excited to see what Santa left under the tree.
If you feel like your relationship is nearing its end, and you are worried about there being a dark cloud over your holiday season, consider spending the next month or so making sure divorce truly is the answer to your situation.
Resolve to save your marriage
The best thing you can do is take a step back during the holiday season to see if divorce truly is the answer. The holiday season can be stressful, but it’s also a perfect time for reflection. Here are four tips to help you get going in the right direction. Even if they don’t work for your specific situation, you’ll at least know you tried everything.
Commit to talking openly with your spouse
Your family will undoubtedly spend more time together during the holidays, so use that time to have open, honest, and constructive conversations with your spouse. Find out what their issues are, and don’t be afraid to share your concerns. Perhaps in doing this, you’ll both be able to work out a few things and see a light at the end of the tunnel.
Give your spouse space
There will be times when both of you will be open to the idea of talking out your differences, and there will be other times when one of you won’t be as receptive. This is okay. Give your spouse the space he or she needs to process; the last thing you want to do is hover, nag, or lose your cool. Hopefully, they will recognize and appreciate your efforts, and when the time is right, they will be ready to talk.
Be invested in family time
Put away the cell phone, the television remote, etc. and focus on your family — especially when the kids are around. Spending quality time together and having everyone engaged in the spirit of the holiday season can help you focus on the positives rather than the negatives you’ve been going through. This tactic alone could spark a change of heart.
With extra time off from work, the holidays are a great time to seek additional counsel from a marriage expert, family and friends, or even a clergy member. You and your spouse need to recognize that some problems are too big to solve on your own. It may take a mediator to help get to the bottom of what is truly causing your marriage to crumble.
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