Your father’s best friend recently passed away unexpectedly. Their family assumed his final wishes were in order, but it turned out he had never created an estate plan—not even a basic Will. Without a plan in place, his estate was caught up in years of probate, and everything had to be divided according to the state’s intestacy laws. Watching the family struggle to sort out his affairs disturbed you and made you start thinking about whether or not your parents had a plan in place.

That’s often how these conversations start—through someone else’s circumstance. Perhaps your parents are ahead of the game with their estate planning, and you have nothing to worry about. But it’s better to know for sure, and sooner rather than later.

What It Means to Die “Intestate”

Having a carefully crafted estate plan in place before you pass away, such as a Will or a Trust, means you or a loved one can dictate what happens next. This can include everything from who should get specific assets to who will care for minor children, manage financial affairs, or even make crucial medical decisions if you are unable to do so.

Think of it as a detailed and specific roadmap for how you want your final wishes to unfold.

When a person dies without estate planning, there is no roadmap. As a result, the state steps in and decides who gets what. Generally speaking, there’s a set formula the courts follow, and the goal is always to ensure the deceased’s assets end up in the right hands. But what that looks like specifically may not unfold exactly as you or your loved one intended.

For the family members left behind, it can turn into a drawn-out ordeal.

Court dates pile up, taxes get complicated, decisions get muddied, and emotions run high.

What should be a time for healing becomes a tangle of paperwork and arguments that can stretch on for years. That’s why having “the talk” about estate planning with your parents is so important, even if it feels uncomfortable.

So, when is the right time to start?

Estate Planning: Good Times to Bring Up the Subject

Here are a few natural opportunities that can open the door to the conversation.

• After the passing of a close friend or family member: This is often a wake-up call that prompts reflection. It is easier to explain the importance of estate planning when it is clear how much confusion can follow without it.
• During major life milestones: Retirement, a move to a new home, remarriage, the death of a beneficiary, or the sale of a business, can all signal it is time to organize affairs sooner rather than later.
• When health issues come up: Even a minor health scare can get everyone thinking about the future. That’s usually a good moment to make sure your parents’ wishes are written down and understood.
• During tax time or while reviewing finances: If your parents are already sorting through numbers and paperwork, it is easier to slide estate planning into the conversation. It feels like part of the same process.
• At family get-togethers: When things are relaxed and everyone’s in good spirits, it can be a gentle time to ask if your parents have an estate plan and where those documents are located.
• After welcoming a grandchild: New generations highlight the importance of protecting family assets and legacies.

Estate Planning Conversations: The Best Time Is Always Now

The truth is, the last thing anyone needs while mourning a loved one is to deal with the long and often painful process of probate. Waiting only increases the risk of leaving important decisions up to the state. That is why the easy answer to when to talk to your parents regarding estate planning is simple: now, or as soon as possible.

A knowledgeable estate planning attorney can make the process smooth and straightforward. They can help your parents craft a plan that protects their wishes, minimizes taxes, and prevents confusion later on. They’re also well-connected to trusted financial advisors who can assist with long-term planning and asset protection.

Starting the conversation early is one of the greatest gifts you can give your family—peace of mind.

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