Why You Don’t Want A Divorce. Many clients come into our office with their minds made up that they are going to get a divorce. You would think that because we are divorce attorneys, we would be eager to help them start that process — but that could not be further from the truth. One of the many client interview questions we ask is “Do you think your marriage is over?”
In writing this blog post, we are not trying to suggest that every relationship can or should be saved. But we do believe that marriage is worth fighting for. And there are plenty of reasons why you do not want a divorce.
Here are 6 reasons why you don’t want a divorce:
It can be costly
There aren’t too many decisions we make in our life that decreases our net worth in half overnight. But that’s what divorce does. In addition, your net worth is decreased before it is split due to the additional costs associated with running two separate households, child support and spousal maintenance, or the financial burden of attorney costs and court fees. We believe it is wise for a person to consider the costs of divorce before determining that their marriage is over, as the financial considerations may motivate them to take action to try and save the marriage.
Think about the children
No matter how a divorce shakes out, your children will ultimately lose. And even before that, parents often become so preoccupied with the process that they forget their children are stuck in the middle. As a married couple, the most important duty is to show your children what a healthy relationship looks like so that they have something to model themselves after. The only way to change the results is to change what you are doing.
The relationship with your spouse isn’t ending
People forget that when a marriage ends, you are not ending the relationship with your spouse. It is actually quite the opposite. An entirely new relationship with your former spouse begins, and you will need to work even harder in this new relationship. Regardless of what transpired during your marriage, you should work together for the benefit of your children.
Divorce is an emotional rollercoaster
Divorce is a significant, life-changing event. For most people, the emotional toll of the death of the marriage is magnified by the stress of the unfamiliarity of the legal process, coupled with fears about the outcome. Others experience additional financial stress and concerns over how they will make it or how they will handle being a single parent.
Your family and friend circles will change
Divorce can also mean strained relationships with parents and in-laws. On top of that, other meaningful relationships with friends — many of whom are shared with your former spouse — can end or change forever as they are potentially forced to choose sides or juggle separate friendships.
Because marriage is worth fighting for
We are believers in the adage that the grass is greener where you water it, especially when it comes to marriage. Marriage is hard. But rather than surrender to those struggles, focus on watering the grass in your relationship. Marriage is a covenant relationship between two people and God, and it is worth fighting for. Take the time necessary to consider the long-term ramifications of divorce.
Call Nelson Law Group today!! Why You Don’t Want A Divorce.
If you are headed toward divorce, you need a trusted advisor in your corner every step of the way. We know the law, but more importantly, we are invested in you and your family — before, during, and after divorce. Give our knowledgeable staff here at Nelson Law Group, PC a call if you have any further questions regarding this – or any other – issue.
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