Open Adoption-Pros and Cons – Giving your child away for adoption, be it for any reason, can be a little tough for birth mothers. Nowadays, the agencies and parents are encouraging open adoptions. However, there have been heated debates between attorneys and agencies on pros and cons of open adoptions.
Open adoptions can be both pleasant and distressing. By only looking at both sides of the picture closely, you’ll be able to decide for yourself for which adoption method to choose.
Pros and Cons of Open Adoption
Open adoptions are very welcoming and warm for the adoptive and birth parents, as well as the child, if handled carefully. However, these warm feelings may turn to a cold war between the birth mother and adoptive mother, for a number of reasons. Yet, there are certain reasons which outweigh the cons of open adoption and vice versa. They are:
· What If Your Child Finds Out That She/he Is Adopted
Pros: By going for an open adoption, you don’t have to dread the idea that what if your child found out the reality that he is adopted. This constant fear can be very depressing. Thus, open adoption gives you an easy escape here.
Cons: On the other hand, an open adoption may give rise to the thought in your child to search his birthparents, knowing that he is adopted. Also, there are chances that he may never wish to find out about his birth parents.
· You Feel Informed
Pros: Knowing the child’s birthparents give you an advantage that you feel informed as to who the parents are and what sort of people are they like.
Cons: While, knowing the mother closely also makes you feel less entitled. You often encounter these thoughts in your mind that you’re not his ‘birth’ mother.
· Creates Confidence in Child
Pros: The child adopted by an open adoption procedure is more confident and strong at emotions. There are mostly no emotional flaws in his/her personality because there are no ambiguities involved about his life.
Cons: But, the adoptive parents may seem this openness as a threat to their love and attachment with the child. They feel that their child knows that they are not his/her birthparents. What if this detached him from them?
· Birth Mother May Not Seek Return of Her Child
Pros: In open adoption, the birthmother is watching your love and care for the child. And, chances are she may distance herself from her child, knowing that you will provide with the best of love and upbringing.
But sometimes in open adoption the birthmother, feels strong affection towards her child, and take this adoption as a temporary process. This saddens both the adoptive and birth mothers.
Deciding for your method of adoption is your choice. But, before going for an open adoption, see if you can handle the cons. If you are confused about your decision, consult with the best lawyers at Nelson Law Group PC and make your choice.