Many recently divorced people genuinely believe they are woefully unprepared for whatever happens next. And who can blame them? Divorce is a significant, life-changing event, and once the dust has settled on the legal side of things, there are still concerns over everything from how they will “make it” financially to how they will handle being a single parent and more.
It is a giant guessing game that is difficult not to get overwhelmed by. Instead of looking forward with positivity, you are stopped dead in your tracks as you stare down an unknown path you never imagined taking.
Yes, making sense of your new life after divorce is always challenging. However, it is essential to look at the benefits.
6 Things to Look Forward To If You Are Recently Divorced
1. Learn more about yourself
With every negative event comes an opportunity to learn and grow in the aftermath. For so long, a significant chunk of your identity has been tied to being in a relationship and sharing life with someone else. While that is not a bad thing, taking this time to learn about who you are, who you want to be, why you are where you are, and who you can reach out to for appropriate types of therapy is enlightening and an opportunity for growth.
2. Social support
Being recently divorced is a wonderful opportunity to separate yourself from all the negativity that took over your life for all those months and years. Go on vacation with your children, reinvest your time and energy into friends you have not seen in a while and other meaningful relationships. This includes spending more time with family members who were there for you – and were positive – throughout the divorce. Do whatever you think is good for your soul.
3. Financial flexibility
Whether you realize it or not, newfound financial freedom comes with being recently divorced. Granted, many people who go through divorce need time to get themselves back on their feet financially, which can include getting a job, finding a place to live, and getting the rest of their finances in order. If you were not the manager of the household finances, it is a great idea to sit down with a financial planner and get educated on ways to protect yourself and your family moving forward. But that does not change the fact tthat your money is yours to spend. No more sharing bank accounts or waiting to go on that vacation you have always wanted. Once you are in a position to do so, enjoy your financial flexibility.
Solitude is not the same as being alone. It allows you to separate yourself from other people’s expectations and allows you to learn how to be more comfortable with yourself when there is no one else around. Forbes came out with an interesting article that lists several benefits of solitude, which include increased productivity, sparking creativity, helping you create a plan for your life, and building mental strength.
5. Spend more time with your kids
Your children’s lives will be impacted no matter how your divorce shakes out. And even before that, parents often become so preoccupied with the process that they forget their children are stuck in the middle. The most important duty you have as a recently divorced parent is to show your children that they are loved and not alone. This is your chance to spend more time with your kids and find ways to move forward together.
6. You can be more choosy with your next relationship
All new relationships are exciting, but when that wears off, you are left with all the hard work that led to the divorce you just went through – and the likelihood that you picked someone just like your ex is really high. I recommend waiting at least six months before getting involved with someone else and to make sure you identify where your former relationship went wrong and how to avoid the same missteps. And when you do, take your time and be more aware of what you want and need from that new relationship.
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